![]() ![]() got into med school but as soon as I got into it I knew my heart wasn't in it, I was depressed for several months as the uni experience wasn't too great either and I felt terrible about not standing up for myself which could've lead to a much happier outcome for me. was pushed into medical school, as if I didn't I was at risk of estrangement or at least my parents would give the good old silent and disappointment treatment. I don't regret the fighting and my career path because ultimately it's my choice and allowed me to be my own person, and being that good daughter who fulfilled her family's idea of success than my own would've been my biggest regret.Ĭurrently in the process of this. If I had been a nurse or doctor, I would definitely be in the worst mental state and always dependent on my parents to make a plan for me than do things that work best for me. However, I kept a 4.0 gpa and after a lot of fights, I got to go to a well-respected college as a poli sci major. They tried to force me by going to community college and deleting my college applications on common app my senior year of hs AND expecting me to fail in cc. Then from my experience, my parents tried to force me into either nursing or medicine, but I really wanted to go into political science. However, she did get to do what she wanted and teaches at an Ivy League school and has her own family. They forced her to go into medicine and Stanford, but after her sophomore year, she cut off contact with her parents completely. Not me, but my cousin grew up with tiger parents where nothing below an A+ was acceptable. If nothing else, I feel like if I could survive living under their thumb after getting a taste of sweet freedom, I can survive mostly anything. Ofc theres no guarantees, but I also know from the few years I was living apart that things improve quite a bit once you're out, regardless of what you're doing or your other stressors. They have tons of family back home to occupy them. They definitely have a social circle outside of us, and my dad has plenty of hobbies and even tells my mom she needs some rather than nagging and bothering us. But imo, they'd have a lot less control over how I choose to live my life here. Theyre planning on retiring overseas (in their home country) so with an ocean between us, they can say all they want. Even if I do this job and I hate it, I'd rather be miserable from my apartment than doubly so at home with parents screaming at me about being a failure, and watching my friends all move away and on with their lives one by one. ![]() It's akin to that "money doesn't make you happy, but would you rather cry on the bus or in a Rolls Royce" tweet. In my current major/field, or even others I was considering switching into, the path to independence isn't as clear and it's requires living at home much longer than I can stand. Imo, that ability alone outweighs the bad. Going into this field, though it's somewhat of a sacrifice because I caved to their demands etc., was the only way I could guarantee I'd be leaving the house within the next year, (for school), graduate and be able to make enough to get independent and stay there. ![]()
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